Autumn Long Cardigan Update:) AKA It takes a village...

Hi Ladies,

Thank you all so much for you thoughts on the blue cardigan I was looking at in this thread

One of the wisest things I think I have learnt here at YLF with regard to shopping is that it is best for me to leave an item and sit with it for a few days and think through a. what I will wear it with   b. where will I wear it and   c. consider how it fits with my lifestyle.

Before YLF I never stopped to think about those things.  I liked it, I bought it. Never wore it. Donated it. lol.

Since posting about the blue cardi on, I think, Monday, I have been pondering it's place in my wardrobe.  I came to the conclusion that just because I liked it, and it seemed a flattering colour, and yes it could be worn with a lot of my existing wardrobe, this didn't necessarily earn it a spot in my closet.  

I was concerned about the length.  Gryffin's comment about her long cardigan stuck with me    "I think I don't wear this as much as I thought because sweater is light so when you move it's almost like being a princess with a train (I know what could be more perfect for the princess of darkness!!  ) but it's a little distracting when I am racing around."  And RoseandJoan's   "Do you love the colour by itself for you?...I am a little concerned it could be orphaned" and then the very wise Joy asked "

If it becomes available in black or grey, will you wish you had waited?"  So with great reasoning I eliminated each of these concerns in my responses, only to come full circle and realise last night the blue cardigan is not for me. It made me psychologically uncomfortable, ref Sarah The White's thread.

The cardigan is light and moves just as Gryffin described. I can carry that off comfortably (psychologically comfortable) in black but I know I am going to feel conspicuous in the light blue.  And the more I thought about it the more I could see the cardigan becoming an orphan as the outfit combinations I was coming up with in my head were not exciting me (thank Jules), and finally, when I popped into Motto today to pick something else up, the cardigan had just arrived in store ... in black!!  It made my heart sing.  Long, draped, knit front, jersey sleeve and black.  I put it on and experienced that pyschological comfort that Sarah spoke off.

So... I came home with the black.

I will just clarify that I am all for stepping outside of our comfort zone but this would not have been the right garment for that for me.

Anyway my point is they say it takes a village to raise a child but clearly it's takes a village to help me dress myself:)  Everyone's input stayed with me and helped me work through deciding if this was a good choice / investment for me.  So Thank you!  I appreciate you all so much and this exercise has been another step in honing my shopping and wardrobe building skills.


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  • replied 8 years ago

    I like this.  This is valuable advice/experience/ etc.  I need to do more of that kind of thinking myself.  I'm a classic buy-neverwear-donate-repeat offender.

  • rabbit replied 8 years ago

    Sounds like a wise and reflective process, and your gut led you right.

  • anne replied 8 years ago

    Love your line about the village! Good to see YLF wisdom helping you.

  • SarahTheWhite replied 8 years ago

    Love it! And I love this village. :-) I'm so glad it worked out perfectly. There is nothing better than that "ahhhhh" feeling, as opposed to feeling like you *should* love it but may not end up wearing it. I love a good happy ending!

  • Joy replied 8 years ago

    I'm glad that all worked out and you had your Ahhhhhh moment with the psychologically comfortable black version.

  • AJ replied 8 years ago

    Glad that is sorted.

    So are you able to answer the same three questions for the olive sleeveless sweater? :)

  • Sal replied 8 years ago

    Interesting and it sounds like a good decision Deborah:)

  • Helen11 replied 8 years ago

    I'm glad there are wise women here to ask the hard questions : )
    And good that you know the black is "you". You seem to have that great option of holding something for a while to think properly, and then make good decisions!

  • replied 8 years ago

    Yay, for the wise ladies who asked the 'right' questions! And so glad you got the long black cardigan. I look forward to seeing it styled soon :)

    I really need to take note of my inner voice about feeling psychologically comfortable. I may do some try ons and see what happens.

  • Summer replied 8 years ago

    I love the princess-with-a-train analogy!

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